How to Succeed in Achieving Your New Year’s Resolutions

Each year people ring in the New Year by making resolutions. 39% of people in their 20’s will see resolution success compared to only 14% of people over age 50.

The top categories for resolutions are:

Self-Improvement 47%

Weight Related 38%

Money Related 34%

Relationships 31%

During the first week, 75% of resolution makers work towards their goals. However, this number declines over time. By June the number has dropped to 46%; people have lost their momentum, given up on their dreams, or just plain forgotten what their resolutions were. In order to achieve resolution success and to not be a failure statistic, you must have a plan to succeed.

The first thing you will want to do is make a vision board. I hear you already poo poo’ing this idea. But it works. If you just write your resolutions down on paper, you lose the paper. If you write them in a journal, you close the journal and the “out of sight out of mind” phenomenon happens. You must have a visual that you see every day. A vision board can be a big poster board you hang on the refrigerator door or it can be as small as a 3×5 index card that you tape to the bathroom mirror and/or carry in your pocket or handbag and see throughout the day. I once had a client who was a realtor, and she taped one to the dashboard of her car to remind her every day why she was doing what she was doing.

Now how do you make a vision board? There is no real right or wrong way. Do what works for you. You can cut out pictures from magazines that align with your new year’s resolutions or you can draw the pictures, or do a combination of cutting pictures out of magazines and drawing.  You can use a white board if you don’t want to use a sheet of paper or poster board. Don’t overcomplicate this. After you have your vision board, you will want to design a strategy that gives you direction for achieving your resolutions. I recommend using the SMART acronym.

The SMART acronym stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely. List each resolution on the top page of your journal or sheet of paper. Then, down the side of the page in your journal list each letter and word of the SMART acronym, and beside each word, list the corresponding direction you will follow to stay on top of working toward success in reaching your new year’s resolutions.

Example

Resolution – lose 30 pounds

S – specific – I want to lose 30 pounds in six months through diet and exercise

M – measurable – weekly weigh-ins will be conducted, track calories eaten and burned daily

A – achievable – five pounds must be lost each month or 1.25 pounds per week

R – realistic – (yes, this is realistic) – identify periods or situations that may sabotage eating and exercise plan such as Valentine’s Day, Easter Sunday, Mother’s Day – tell people to not give me candy.

T – timely – yes, this is timely.

If you made the goal to lose 30 pounds in one month, it may not be achievable, realistic, or timely. Using the SMART acronym and creating your vision board does take time to complete, but it is worth the investment of your time. Make it a family activity or an activity you complete with friends. Remember, research has shown that those who share their resolutions are 10 times more likely to see success.  As you work through your resolutions you will once again have closure, hope, and direction.

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Chart Your Direction for Success in 2017!

 

Did you make New Year’s Resolutions?

      Do you have a plan so you successfully reach them?

            Without a plan your resolutions are doomed to not succeed.

Make time to chart your direction for success in 2017! Create a vision board and use the SMART acronym when plotting your new course for success in 2017. (More about the SMART acronym in my next blog post.)

New Year’s Resolutions provide closure, hope, and DIRECTION. These three items work together to help you reduce stress and achieve success in 2017.

Adopt a Positive Mindset for 2017

Have you taken time to reflect on 2016?

Today you will want to focus on step two of my three piece recipe for resolution success. Have HOPE! Believe that good things are ready to be yours in 2017.

Never lose HOPE!

Adopt a positive mindset as we say goodbye to 2016 and hello to 2017!

3 Reasons Why You Need to Make New Year’s Resolutions

Each year 45% of the American population makes New Year’s Resolutions. Yet, only 8% successfully meet or achieve their resolutions. The most popular resolutions fall in self-improvement, weight loss, finance, and relationships categories.

Have you ever stopped to think about why you make resolutions? Is it a family tradition? Because everyone else is doing it? Or because society expects you to make resolutions? Either way, making New Year’s Resolutions is good for you.

Below are my three reasons why you should make New Year’s Resolutions this year.

New Year’s Resolutions Give You:

 Closure

  Hope

   Direction

As you begin to think about what New Year’s Resolutions you will make for 2017, you are forced to reflect on 2016. This will help you identify things you want to end or people you want to eliminate from your life. Reflecting on the past year will also help you see what or who held you back from achieving your personal and professional goals. Saying goodbye to toxic people, unproductive activities, unpleasant situations, and bad habits will provide you space and time for new opportunities and activities. Closure is good. It provides you hope.

Hope is not toxic. Hope gives you peace of mind, drive, and motivation. Can you think of a better feeling to have as you start 2017? When you have hope, you can set a new direction for 2017.

You are in the driver’s seat of your life. Make time to chart your direction for success in 2017. Each new year’s resolution should have its own roadmap to success. I encourage you to take the time to create a vision board showing the resolutions you have already achieved. Then, in a journal or on a white board, write step by step directions on how you will achieve success. I recommend using the SMART acronym when designing the directions for your resolution achievement. We all follow directions every day to achieve results. When you have directions on how to achieve your desired results and you follow them, you will succeed.

Research has shown that when you explicitly make resolutions, you are 10 times more likely successfully complete them than those who don’t explicitly make resolutions. Hang your vision board where others will see it and comment. This will motivate you to keep working towards your goal. Sadly, only 14% of people over the age of 50 reach or achieve success with their resolutions. In the first week, 75% of resolution makers work towards their goals, however the number decreases with each month that passes by. Don’t be the statistic that does not achieve success. In my next article, I will share tips on achieving success in 2017. But for now, make time to reflect on 2016, on what worked and what you will no longer tolerate in 2017.

New Year’s Resolutions provide closure, hope, and direction. These three items work together to help you reduce stress and achieve success in 2017. You can be one of the 8% who achieves resolution success.

Only If I Want To…

stencil.instagram-postThis photo was inspired by a client I worked with last week. She has made tremendous progress in her coaching program because she has stopped say “yes” to things she doesn’t want to do. As we were in the middle of her session the words “only if I want to…” came out of her mouth. I told her that was her new mantra “only if I want to…”.

What are you doing that you don’t want to do? What are you tolerating? I challenge you to adopt the mantra “only if I want to…”. This will help you eliminate stress and distractions. Then, you can focus on the things you truly want to do.

Save this photo to your phone and/or screen saver to remind you that you only are going to say “yes” “only if I want to”.

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Founder ESPN Interview

You Are Never Too Old To Turn Your Dreams Into Reality
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  • Don’t let your ideas die.
  • Never stop learning.
  • Be a pioneer.
  • The best way to predict your future is to plan for it.

 

 

 

Passion:
What is it?
Do you have it?
How do you get it?

When you hear the word passion what image comes to mind – steamy romance, love, and candle lit dinners or hand holding? How do YOU define passion? When I think of passion I don’t think of the romance between two people. I think of the romance I have with my life. I wake up each day secure in knowing that I am living life on my terms; doing the things that I am passionate about – living life on my terms. Are you?

Passion for life is something that is felt internally – deep in your heart or soul. Remember when you were little? Yes, think back to when you were in pre-school or maybe kindergarten. What games did you enjoy playing? When you played doctor were you the doctor, the nurse or the patient? Did you play school? Did you get to be the teacher or the student? Maybe, you played Miss America and you paraded around the living room in your swimsuit while wearing your mother’s high heels practicing your smile and wave. Did you dream about being the Homecoming Queen while dressed in your mothers old formal gowns holding a bouquet of plastic flowers? Now, think about how great you felt while were playing dress up. Oh and don’t forget the tea parties. Did you have beautiful plastic or china dishes? Did you wear white gloves and one of grandma’s old hats?

Those memories probably just warmed your heart, brought a smile to your face and put a twinkle or spark in your eyes. Those childhood activities prepared you for the roles you would later step into as a leader, artist, caretaker, mother and wife. They helped mold you.

So now we fast forward to our life today. Do you really love what you are doing now? Is this the life you ordered? Do you ever find yourself dreading getting out of bed in the morning because you don’t want to go to work or face the music? Life is really too short.

I use to have a sign hanging on the front of my desk when I was stationed in Okinawa, Japan that said “Life’s too short to dance with ugly men.” Now, don’t get all riled up on the word ugly. Ugly can be referring to a mean or horrible personality or disposition. So, with that in mind let’s think about how we can design our life so we are only around people that have great personalities and make us want to jump up from our chair and dance. I saw you shaking your head as you read this article. My crystal ball tells me you are NOT living the life you ordered and you are NOT always living life on your terms.

So, NOW is the time to find that passion. Are you ready? There is no magic fairy dust.

You MUST:
1. Dare to Dream!
2. Be prepared to face your fears!
3. Commit to taking ACTION!

I look forward to helping you on your journey to finding your passion and turning your passion into profits! Only when we are living our dream and fulfilling our passion are we truly at peace, content and sharing our gifts with the world. When we share our gifts or talents we are truly aiding and empowering others to live their dream and follow their passion.

I am so proud of this interview from the archives. Bill’s PR person approached me – little ole me – to be on my radio show. He has so many words of wisdom that I know you will be inspired to continue doing great things.  As I approach my 10 year Anniversary and reflect on all the blessings and things I have done I am still amazed how many awesome people I have interviewed over the years. This is one interview I still have to pinch myself to see that it was real. ENJOY!

From the archives –

Guest interview with:

Bill Rasmussen, Founder of ESPN

Employee Squabbles – Family Roles That Come to Work

getalongDo you ever notice that sometimes your employees behave like children? Have you ever taken the time to get to know your employees? Which ones are first born, middle children, and babies of the family? Was our employee raised by two parents, one parent, or grandparents? Research has shown that we do bring our family life to work with us. The roles we had in our family when growing up follow us to our jobs. Yes, even you as the boss bring your childhood family role to the workplace.

Five Common Family Roles that Come to Work:

  1. Leader. The leader may often be the first born in a family. He or she may be a bit bossy and intimidating. Do not allow bullying. He or she will often take charge and want to do things his or her own way. As an employer, you must have systems in place so that he or she knows how you want certain jobs performed. You will want to be clear on when or where the employee can add his or her own creativity. You will also want to have clear boundaries established on his or her level of authority over other employees so that things to not get out of hand. The leader can be a great asset to your team.
  1. Clown. The clown will liven up your workplace. But, if your business environment does not promote or allow for the clown personality you will need to address this immediately. The clown may appear to be immature and childish. He or she may be insecure and rely upon “clowning” around to ease his or insecurity and the fact he or she may not understand what is required to do the job. The clown may be attention seeking. This could be carried over from childhood where he or she had to perform as a clown to get attention from his or her parents, teachers or siblings. As the employer you will want to establish boundaries so the clown understands what is allowed and what is not. You do not want the clowns’ actions to be misunderstood as hazing or bullying.
  1. Scapegoat. Every family has a scapegoat. The scapegoat gets blamed for everything that goes wrong. The scapegoat may even take the blame for other employees’ mistakes. This may be a learned behavior carried over from childhood where he or she had to protect a family or friend from being picked on or punished. As the employer or business owner make sure you know who is really at fault. Do not jump to conclusions that it is really the scapegoat at fault.
  1. Victim. The victim is different from the scapegoat. He or she often feels inferior. The victim falls into this role when he or she does not want to do something. He or she is often in a crisis and complains. The victim knows his or her job but uses this for attention seeking and avoidance of responsibility. Victims can consume your energy and zap the energy of your employees. As the business owner, you will want to ensure you understand who is playing the victim and you do not allow it to continue. This will require that you address the employees underlying feelings of inadequacy. You will need to bolster this persons self-esteem.
  1. People Pleaser. Oh, the people pleaser says “yes” to everything. Even when he or she should say “no”. The people pleaser will often over commit to tasks that may not be easily accomplished by the employees. This can lead to employee dissatisfaction and customer dissatisfaction. The employees are upset due to the added stress. The customer is dissatisfied if the product is delivered late or less than perfect. Employers need to establish firm boundaries on what employees can commit to on behalf of the business. If the boss is the people pleaser, he or she must review what the employees can do within their scope of expertise and commitments already booked.

As the employer or business owner, you will have greater productivity in the workplace and you will be able to maximize your employees work performance when you take the time to find out the role they had in their family as a child. You will also grow your business when you understand the role you had growing up in your family that you are bringing to work. When you learn the family role your employees bring to work the sooner you will be able to capitalize on this information and grow your business.

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Are You Living a Fruitful Life?

Be Fruitful
Live a Fruitful Life

Living a fruitful life requires you deal with the pits at one time or another. Life isn’t easy. No one ever said it was. However, we often get stuck and fall into a stooper that can lead to clinical depression if left unchecked.

What stops you from leading a fruitful life? Is it the hard work that is needed to see results? Is it the economic expense or the investment of your time?

Life is too precious to waste. God gave each of us unique talents. I firmly believe he wants us to use the gifts he gave us. He wants us to be successful. But, he never said it was going to be easy. Look around your home. What is in your trash? Did you throw away fruits and vegetables that rotted because you were not willing to make time to prepare them for eating? Are there clothes in the trash that you didn’t want to take the time and work on getting that stain out or that needed a button sewed on? If you look at your credit card or bank statements how often were you charged a late fee or over-limit fee because you didn’t take the time to manage your finances? Living in chaos can lead to feelings of malaise and depression.

Leading a fruitful life requires you to respect you, your money, your time and the gifts you were given. You can do this by keeping a daily agenda. Know your purpose for the day. Why are you doing what you are doing? If your calendar is blank then find something with a purpose to do. Volunteer in the community, job hunt, help a friend or neighbor. Do something that will help you reach your life goals and that compliments your life mission. People need to be needed. You are no different. If you find yourself unemployed or you are new to retirement find a new purpose. Make time to write your personal mission statement.

Admit your weaknesses and areas you are lazy and focus on overcoming these obstacles. I know when I buy fruit and vegetables I need to process them right away for eating or that cantaloupe, watermelon, cucumbers, cherries etc will sit and rot. Why do they sit and rot – because I get lazy and am not willing to do the work to enjoy them? What a waste of money. It is OK to stop and think about why you do what you do or don’t do.

Self-improvement and personal growth is another key area to leading a fruitful life. Think how water that just sits becomes stagnant. You don’t want to become that barrel of nasty water that becomes a breeding ground for misquotes. Again, if you are new to retirement or currently unemployed invest in personal growth activities to keep your skills marketable and your mind busy.

Respect you and your resources. Know your purpose. Know your weaknesses or what you don’t like. Keep moving forward in life. Embrace life. When you do these things it will make dealing with the pits a whole lot easier so that you can enjoy a fruitful life. A fruitful life does not require money. It is what is felt on the inside. Whoever said “life is like a bowl of cherries” was right – you must deal with the pits to enjoy the sweet fruit.

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You, Your Business & Corporate Social Responsibility

corpsocresresponCorporate Social Responsibility is defined as “the obligation of organizations to take an active part in improving society” (Muchinsky & Culbertson, 2016, p. 268). You are probably familiar with Tom shoes and that when you buy a pair of Toms they donate a brand new pair to someone in need. As their company has grown and offered other products to the consumer so has their giving program. In addition to shoes, they now donate eyewear, exams, and surgeries as well as fresh water where needed. What does your business do to help others in need? Do you donate time by volunteering in your community?

Over 90% of Fortune 500 companies run employee volunteering programs. Employers encourage volunteering and provide paid time off to employees who volunteer with nonprofits in their community. As a small business owner, you too can design a corporate social responsibility program. Your community thrives when people step up to volunteer.

Steps to Designing Your Business Social Responsibility Program

1. Review your budget – this means not just money but time. How much time can you afford to offer your employees each week or month to give back to the community through volunteering?

2. Select an organization that aligns with your values or has a mission you want to support. This is a link to get you started http://www.onslowcountync.gov/Administration/VolunteerOnslow.aspx If you do not live in Onslow County you can do an online search for volunteer opportunities in your community.

3. Decide if you will close shop and volunteer as a group or if you will honor individual commitments.

4. Create a simple form to record the employee and volunteer opportunities.

5. Let your customers know what organizations benefit from your Business Social Responsibility Program. Share this information on your website, social media platforms and in a media release. Take photos and share.

Other ways you can be socially responsible is by engaging in environmental sustainability. This means honoring and conserving our natural resources. Does your business recycle soda cans, in cartridges, and used or unwanted equipment? Do you use green products that are environmentally friendly and safe for our water systems? I challenge you to take the time to think about this and see what modifications you can make to how you do business that will not compromise the quality of services you deliver. One way my business is conserving resources is by not printing documents that I want to read. I am a paper junky. However, I am curbing the printing and saving the documents online. Printing client files requires not only the use of electricity, ink, and paper but it also requires the use of cardboard or plastic when storing the files.

I invite you to be a change agent for your industry and business. Adopt a corporate social responsibility program. Give back to your community while conserving resources.